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Empowerment

Empowered Women Empower Women- Wintana Kiros of Reset Lifestyle

This month’s Empowered Women Empower Women series features an amazing woman specializing in helping people gain their health back through nutrition education, health coaching, and wait for it… styling!! Yup, she does it all, and she does it so that you can live a life where you are thriving. She does this, in part, using Reset Lifestyle.

Wintana is an entrepreneur, a clinical dietitian, a former model, a mother to two handsome boys, and a wife, among many other things.

Enjoy reading all about Wintana Kiros’ journey and how she became the fantastic mompreneur she is today! Read on as she tells us more about “Reset Lifestyle”.

1)  Tell me about your journey- What inspired you to become a registered dietitian/health coach and a stylist, and what do you want readers to gain from ‘Reset Lifestyle’?

I became a health coach and stylist because my passion is truly helping people. I modeled in college and enjoyed the creative styling side of fashion. When I graduated, I began my career as a clinical dietitian. Over the years as a clinician, I realized that diet and exercise were only 33% of the solution to having true well-being. This led me to launch Reset Lifestyle. I offer my clients a whole-person approach addressing their nutrition, stress, sleep, mental health, hydration, and style. Allowing us to feel good, look good, and do good for our family, friends, and community.

My hope is that readers understand the truth about their well-being. Unlike what we see and hear in the media, well-being is more than counting calories and exercising to death. Well-being is seeing yourself as a whole being, addressing your stress, sleep, mental health, and being intentional about hydrating your body. It is essential to nourish your body and move your body because it feels good, not just as a form of reward or punishment. This is why reset lifestyle is so helpful!

What inspired you to become a registered dietitian/health coach and a stylist, and what do you want readers to gain from 'Reset Lifestyle'?

2)    What are some of the hurdles you faced when you first started your business and some that you’re still facing today?

I would say the majority of the hurdles were in my head. I was worried that I didn’t know enough to help my clients despite the many years of training and work experience. I soon started to see results in my clients’ lives, and that built my confidence. I now focus on curating tools and resources to help my clients sustain the results they have achieved.  The only hurdle I face today is helping individuals see the importance of investing in themselves to work with me and regain their health. 

3)    What do you wish people knew more about when it comes to working moms, especially moms that run their own businesses?

I wish people respected our time and saw us as business owners. We are NOT running a hobby, and we have bills to pay, just like the 9-5 employees. We are highly organized and value our time more than ever in this season of our lives.  We give 100% to everything we do, we show up for our family, and we are the greatest cheerleader for our clients.  We love what we do, and we want to do more of it every day.

4)    If there was one thing you’ve done that you could go back in time and change, what would it be?

I wish I would have just started earlier; I held myself back, thinking I needed more information or resources before I started. The truth is, I developed and created most of my tools and resources once I started seeing my clients. 

5)    Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

Five years from now, I see myself continuing to grow my virtual practice and being present for things that matter the most. I will be an expert in women’s health and support women to accomplish their goals in life. Also, I will partner with different health care providers to offer well-rounded wellness services.

6)    You quit your full-time clinician career to follow your dreams of opening your own business in 2019, all while raising two young boys.  How do you manage to balance it all- motherhood/marriage/building a business/friendship?

The truth is there is no such thing as balancing your different hats as a woman.  You just start to be great at delegating various tasks so you can spend more quality time with the people you love. I choose to be present and fully engaged in whatever hat I am wearing at the moment. I used to think I had to give equal amounts of “time” to all my different hats; however, it was unrealistic. Now, I intentionally choose to be present at the moment, so I can show up for the people in my life and my clients instead of dividing my attention and feeling guilty all the time.

7)     In your eyes, what’s your most significant accomplishment?

I am doing it scared and leaning on my faith to help me walk this unknown and uncertain territory called Mompreneurship. I trust God completely to provide for my needs because I am doing what he has called me to do.  Therefore, he has provided for every mission he gives us.  God has consistently provided for every need in my business, and he has not failed me!

8)    What advice do you have for someone that wants to become a health coach/dietitian or start their own business?

I say start, don’t wait for things to be ‘perfect.’  Just start, and everything will start to show up for you. Trust the process. Failure is just feedback. Most importantly, fail fast and forward so you can get great at what you do.

Also, I recommend finding your village. A tribe of like-minded people in your field that you can support and lean on as you continue to grow your business. Since beginning Reset Lifestyle, I have made some amazing connections that have helped me grow as a dietitian and business owner.

9)    What are some empowering words or quotes you often find yourself turning to?

“Somebody somewhere is depending on you to do what God has called you to do.”

“I never lose; I either win or learn” – Nelson Mandela.

These quotes have grounded me in challenging times. I am grateful every day that I get to do what I love.

10)    Do you have any last words for our readers…?

Perfection is the perfect recipe for inaction; just start whatever you were supposed to do. Trust the process, things, and people will begin to show up for you so that you can pursue your assignment. Most importantly, God ALWAYS has a provision for the mission he has assigned you to complete. Please do it for the kingdom and not for the culture.

I hope you enjoyed reading all about Wintana’s journey.  More importantly, I hope her story inspired you to follow your dreams and create what you feel is missing in the world.

Lastly, if you are looking to start your healthy living journey and would like to join a tribe that will cheer you on and assist you with the nutritional side of your new path, check her site out at www.resetlifestyle.com.  

Please be sure to stay tuned for monthly featured posts from other empowered women. Contact me if you would like to share your story and empower our readers. As always, I’d love to hear from you.

Always,

Luwam

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Relationship

How Not to Let the Past Affect Your Relationship

I’m a huge GREENLEAF fan. It’s a show on OWN that Netflix has been airing for a while now, and the last season (season 5) was released on September 10th. While this blog post is not an ad for the show (although I would love to work with them), it does hold a lot of weight on today’s subject, how to not let the past affect your relationship – it’s actually the driving force behind the topic. You see, in the show, there is so much drama, so much bad has happened over the years that each couple has held on too. It’s shown how each secret, betrayal, and the negative situation has impacted a family that, from the outside, looks and seems perfect. It made me think about my marriage and how much I subconsciously hold on to the past even when my conscious state has moved on (or at least wants to move on).

Our subconscious mindset drives so much of who we are. Often the phrase “you can talk the talk but can you walk the walk” comes to mind. For me, that means we can say we are over it; we can say anything, but how we act, how we feel- our behavior, is what stands out the most. 

Mindset: Don’t Let the Past Affect Your Relationship

To understand your subconscious mindset (walking the walk part), one has to practice self-awareness on a level that’s so deep that you can’t help but stop yourself when you feel certain old behaviors or feelings creeping up. For example, I talked in previous blogs about how, in the past, I’ve typically yelled to be heard. Growing up, that was the norm in my world, so I always thought it was the best way to get my frustration out.  This created friction in my marriage, though,  because once my voice increased, Bini’s attention level decreased, which then started a vicious cycle of constant battles because I never felt heard. Can you imagine what it’s like never to feel heard? 

This is just one example of how my past (in this case- my upbringing) affected my relationship daily. Now, moving forward to the current day: He still drives me crazy, and I find myself wanting to scream so that I can let the emotions out, BUT, I know I will lose him if I do that, so I have to catch myself and breathe so that I can calmly state my reasoning and we can have a mature conversation. 

Bini and I have been together for 21 years now, and during this time, there has been so much doubt, negativity, and friction between us. This caused us to break-up plenty of times while we were dating, and after marriage, we were separated and nearly divorced. Now, the key thing I want you to take away from this post is that the time we spent apart really taught us how to be better parents to our children and better spouses to each other. In hindsight, our separation saved us and made us better people altogether. When we got back together, we forgave each other and decided to move on from the past. I can tell you; it is definitely easier said than done. Years later, there are still even to this day, certain things that Bini does that are trigger points for me and take me back to a time where our marriage was broken. I never acknowledged and associated the pain with our past, though, until I started practicing self-awareness to a level that had me thinking (deep thinking) to the root of my issues. Once I saw it for what it was, those trigger points no longer served a purpose because I could look at them as a situation instead of a part of who I am. You see, whatever happens to you, should never become the definition of YOU! Never give any situation that much power over you! 

Hard Truths About Relationships

The truth of the matter is, in life, awful situations are bound to happen. Chances are, you will be hurt by someone you love, and it can be anything from a simple lie to cheating or abuse or even a break-up. What happens afterward, though, is our decision. Whatever the case is, you have to choose whether it is something you can accept or not.  

If we don’t understand how worthy we are, then we will continue to allow each awful situation to affect us profoundly, AND this is what ultimately becomes our story. This is where we start to live out the victim card and think that our life is just meant to be this or that way.  

The second biggest factor (first being your self-worth) to not letting the past affect you is forgiveness! Forgiving means you understand your worth, but you also know that no human is perfect, and therefore while you have been hurt, you are more significant than that hurt. That hurt cannot hold you down; you have survived whatever hurtful situation has occurred. Forgiveness is much easier said than done! It takes a lot to truly forgive someone you love and respect because the hurt hits so deep in your heart. 

Keep in mind that you are forgiving your partner, not for them but for YOU! It gives you peace, and that peace will help you move on from the hurt. 

Forgiveness is the Key to Keeping Past from Affecting Your Relationship

Now, forgiveness can be tricky. On one side, your ego and pride will want to keep you away from true forgiveness because it appears as if you’re condoning the behavior, and then on the other side, you will have fear of that person hurting you again. This is where you and only YOU need to decide what you value…healthy relationship, peace of mind, less stress, etc. Only you know your partner’s real intentions, and honestly, people make mistakes; if they can learn from their mistakes and be better people because of them, than you owe it to the both of you to be with that person. If, however, you have any doubt that they will make an effort if their actions speak louder than all their promises, then still forgive but move on understanding your worth and knowing that you deserve better. The pain of letting go will hurt for the time being, but you will move on, and by forgiving that person and following these key steps, you won’t let that relationship hold you back from your future relationships. I should add that the steps below will also work if you decide to move on with your partner. 

Key Takeaways

1) Don’t dwell on the past; see it instead as a lesson learned 

You can’t change your past, but you can change how it affects your future. Take what you have learned from each relationship and situation and use only the good moving forward. 

2) Be open about your feelings

You’re hurt, and speaking about those feelings will give you closure. If you bottle it all up inside and not discuss what happened, that chapter will never be fully closed. You will always wonder what could have or should have occurred and play out different scenarios in your head. Trust me; it’s a horrible place to be! 

3) Take time for yourself before making any decisions

Never feel forced to make life-changing decisions. 

I hope this blog has helped you or someone you know to keep the past out of your relationship. As always, I’d love to hear from you. Is your past affecting your relationship? If so, what are you doing to change things?

Always,

Luwam

Categories
Healthy Living

How to ‘Check In’ with Yourself

Funny title, right? Checking in with yourself sounds like something we do for other people. How would one even begin to check in with themselves? I mean, what do you do, talk to yourself in front of the mirror?

I mean by ‘checking in’ to have the brutal yet honest conversation with yourself about everything that is going on in your space, whether good or bad. This could be done in written or verbal format and is a great way to face any issue that weighs you down. It’s essential to do this daily (maybe even twice a day) because when we aren’t dealing with our problems head-on, they tend to take up more and more mental space, and that’s one key factor that can lead us to stress, anxiety and depression.

Your emotional state can be hard to understand; unlike your physical state, it isn’t visible to the eye. You don’t know what you don’t know. However, our emotional state plays a massive role in our everyday lives. It all starts with our thinking process. My mentor, January Donovan taught me the thought process in the easiest possible form:

  1. Thoughts lead to Emotions
    1. Example: “I don’t like this person” turns to being annoyed and frustrated whenever that person comes around you
  2. Emotions lead to a chemical reactive in your brain that takes all the information and processes it.
  3. Example: You are annoyed by that person that you don’t like, so your mind automatically thinks this person is not good. You don’t even know this person enough to realize whether they are good or bad, but since you thought this way, your brain processed that information.
  4. Chemical Reactive leads back to your Thoughts
    1. Definitely do not like this person
  5. Thoughts lead to your Behavior
    1. You ignore the person, or you are rude
  6. That Behavior becomes your story
    1. “Well, I am who I am, and I don’t like her.”

This exercise is vital and can be done with any experience in your life.  When you consciously think about your inner dialogue, and see how it is showing up in your behavior, you will start to be aware that you are in control and not fall back into your old behavior. Let these five steps be your wakeup call whenever you feel frustrated or unhappy about something.

Remember, the thoughts you focus on will expand, so please always try to think about things that empower you and give you joy.

If you want to learn more about your thinking process, or how to manage your mind, check out my new program, where we work on a holistic approach, working from the inside out. It is a three-month fitness and personal development program that will focus on the WHOLE YOU (mental, physical, and spiritual).

I hope this blog helps you or someone you know. As always, I’d love to hear from you. What are you doing to manage your thoughts and your mind?

Always,

Luwame