In my view and trust me when I say, this theory has been tested and proven- I am a much better person when I am working and outside of the home. Although, I love my children dearly, I did not like the person I was after I had my first child and decided to become a fulltime stay at home mom. Granted I was 23 at the time and very un-experienced in parenting but as much as I loved my little girl and wanted to be with her every second of the day, staying at home was not for me.
Fast forward 10 years and now I am a mom of 3. Going back to work after having baby #2 and #3 was hard. I felt guilty leaving my innocent beautiful baby at home and going away for hours at a time. I felt even guiltier for wanting to work and having a career! I basically was an emotional wreck‼
Looking back at both times now, I can honestly say, going back to work after Lorenzo (baby #2) was actually easier than when I came back to work after Novena (baby #3). I thank GOD every day, for the job I have and the people I work with because they are extremely understanding and made the transition so much more easier for me than my previous office did. I am also very fortunate to have a great nanny that loves my children. However, even with all the support, the first couple weeks were horrible. None of my work clothes fit, my breasts were leaking because I had just stopped breast feeding, I missed my baby and I could not wait for the work day to be over. For the first time I actually contemplated staying home again. I worked out the numbers in my head and thought about our finances (especially since we just moved into a new home) and the math just didn’t seem to work out.
Another factor that affected my guiltiness was time. I am always on the run with the older children which left me with very little time to spend with Novena.
Sadly, I don’t have any advice to give new mothers that are going through the “back to work blues” as I like to call it. I can however say that as time passed and I got back into my work routine, the one thing that really helped me cope was having a timed plan and sticking to it.
I’d love to know how you all dealt with your back to work blues. Feel free to leave your feedback below.