I’ve struggled with writing this post for some time now, mainly because I am a living example of the habits you will later read and it’s always hard sharing something while you are still going through the motions.
I have always been stuck on the
“I’ll be happier when I get a degree; I’ll feel more content when I get the perfect job at DOS; having the perfect wedding and more children will satisfy the void; traveling the world and learning about new cultures would leave me feeling fulfilled.
All these experiences did make me happy, but they also all came with expiration dates and then it was on to the next “I’ll be happier when” statement.
Finally, I had to stop and ask myself “If I’m not happy right now after all these blessings, will I ever be?” That right there was a huge eye-opener for me. The question of whether I will ever be happy was mind-blowing. I mean who doesn’t want to be happy right? That’s when I decided it was time for a change. Time to let go of all the negative stuff and focus on what made me smile, what I was passionate about and
the people I loved most in this world- my family and close friends. In doing so, I adapted these 5 habits that have proven time and time again that happiness can never be bought. It’s a state of being and not something tangible.
We all have baggage we love carrying around with us that limits our happiness every day. Let go of whatever happened in the past and focus on the bright future ahead of you. Trust me, I know it’s easier said than done, but think about it; without letting go of the negative vibes and freeing yourself from the weight you carry around because of it, you can’t possibly make room for all the new and better things in your life.
Come to terms with whatever has happened and move on from it. Truly move on, and you will see an abundance of happiness in your life.
I had a hard time learning how to do this. As a mother, I am always rushing and thinking about the next step. It wasn’t until the that I started to become more in tune with my surroundings and living in the present. I noticed how much I was missing out on with my family and those I care about when I wasn’t living in the moment and being grateful for all I have.
When you are thankful for all you have, it makes it harder to think about what you don’t have. The mere fact that you are waking up is a blessing. Remember that!
There are so many reasons why we all need to stop comparing our lives to those around us or what we see on social media. It basically robs us of precious time and joy because we spend hours looking at how other people are living their lives instead of living our own. Instead focus on yourself and your dreams because, at the end of the day, that’s really all you can control.
Positive vibes attract positive people! Have you ever noticed that good things tend to always happen to people that are happy and think positive thoughts? Isn’t it crazy? It’s all about that positive energy, and when you surround yourself with happy people, you tend to build on the same energy without even realizing it. You start to laugh more and complain less.
I know, I know… Easier said than done! Trust me, I still battle with this one, but it has to be done. What are we really solving by complaining about our situation? Will it solve our problem? Will it help us feel better? Hmmm… I don’t think so.
How about instead of complaining, we think of a solution and fix our issues or accept them as is. It seriously is that simple. Either fix the problem or take it as is. These are the same two options you will have for almost every problem/situation you ever come across. Once you come to terms with these two facts the mere idea of complaining will seem absurd and a waste of time, which ultimately leads you to a happier life. One with fewer complaints and more gratitude!
I hope this helps you or someone you know. As always, I’d love to hear from you. What’s your idea of happiness? Are you living your happy life? Be sure to leave your comments below.
Until Next Week.